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Is It Important To Have Common Interests?

Not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.
Hebrews 10:24-25
"It’s no secret that couples who spend time together are happier and more satisfied in the relationship. When you’re able to create memories based on shared interests, it helps develop a deep, strong bond". Relish

Just, something that a lot of people may overlook in the beginning of a relationship. Is lust overpowering? Is the result infatuation of completely over the top?

The reason I ask it is easy to believe that everything is going to work out. You are convinced that it has a happily forever after ending just waiting to happen even though one of you is obsessed with sports and the other one HAS to have a weekly night at at the local art gallery. One of you craves loud music while the other one insists on the opera. While these are not things that cannot be overcome, if there are more opposite interests than those in common, it can definitely be an issue.

Suppose, for example, the husband loves sailing and deep sea fishing. His wife gets sea sick just THINKING about being on the water. Is he going to sell his boat and stop fishing? Or maybe she is a fashion designer and his idea of style is a 80s pair of holey jeans? These can be some rather serious differences but, again, they can still be overcome if there is the will to do so.

Consider for a minute, though, that with so many of these differences in place, just how much time would the two of you actually spend together having fun?

I think, the important thing to remember is that if being in a marriage with someone who has many of the same interests as you do is what you really want, then you should not settle for less. Neither one of you will ever be totally happy.


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