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Say Sorry To Your Husband

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God". Matthew 5:9

Most of us hate to mess up a good thing, and when we make a mistake with our husbands it's not always easy to know how to say sorry to your husband. There are a lot of ways you can go about it, but whatever approach you use make sure that your apology is sincere.

“I’m not very good at saying sorry, but I apologize.“ – Chris Kurtz

How receptive your husband will be to your apology will depend on many things. In some cases the way you apologize may have to be a little different depending on the circumstances but for the most part as long as you offer a heart felt apology your husband will probably forgive you.

If you've done the same thing over and over again and you are apologizing for the umpteenth time, it's not very likely that he will consider your apology to be heart felt. He will probably just get sick of you doing the same old thing over and over again and sooner or later he will walk away if you don't make some changes.

But for something that isn't a chronic problem your best bet is to honestly tell him that you are sorry for what you did (or said) and that you'll never do it again (and make darn sure that you don't).

Depending on the situation, you may even want to offer an explanation of why you did or said what caused the problem. Sometimes it can be helpful for the other person to forgive you if they realize that you weren't trying to be mean but rather that you were dealing with your own issue.

That knowledge coupled with an apology can go a very long way... as long as you never do it again.

While I personally think it's always a good idea to make a verbal apology, sometimes that's just not enough. In those cases, after you've apologized, it can be a good idea to 'grovel' a little bit.

Let him choose the movie that you go to, or let him pick out the restaurant, etc. Let him have his own way as part of your apology.

You do have to be a little careful with this strategy though. If your husband is a little on the selfish side to begin with, this technique may cause more problems than it solves.

The same thing is true for the 'seduction apology'. If your husband is the type of guy who pouts when he doesn't get his own way, you may be opening up a can of worms if you try to apologize by seducing him. That is just another game and it's not the sign of a completely healthy relationship.

You are both grownups, so when you mess up act like a grown up and take the time to say sorry to your husband.

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