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Relationship Needs - Unique But Similar

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Thessalonians 5:11

Everyone has their own unique relationship needs, some people like to have a relationship with someone who is funny, some need someone who is spontaneous, whatever it may be. But there are also some 'basics' that everyone needs (even if they don't know they need it) to keep a relationship strong, healthy and stable.

"The best thing to hold onto in life is each other." Audrey Hepburn

It's always best to understand that there is no such thing as perfect but there can be a 'perfect for you.

It really just boils down to basic decency and treating each other properly. Some of the basic minimums that you want in order to have a strong relationship are:

1. Honesty and integrity. I have a few friends who have been in relationships with guys who are not honest and have no real integrity. These guys lie, cheat and probably steal. Who in their right mind would want to enter into, or continue, a relationship with someone they can't even trust? Sorry, but that's just plain stupid.

2. Maturity. Whenever you are in a relationship, especially the older you get, you want your partner to be a 'grown up'. Life is unexpected, you need a strong partner by your side. When you face challenges in your life the last thing you want is someone who is going to fall apart.

If that happens not only do you have to deal with the situation on your own, you'll also have to hold up your partner. Trust me, that can get exhausting.

3. The ability to communicate. It's very important that both of you know how to talk to each other. You need to find constructive ways to let your partner know what you want and need.

You also need to be able to listen calmly to what your partner has to say, some of which you may not want to hear. If both of you can do these things, your relationship will be smoother and more fulfilling.

4. Stability. This goes along with maturity. You want someone who knows when it's time to have fun and when it's time to get down to business. It's hellish to be in a relationship with someone who can't seem to tell the difference.

It might be fun when the two of first start out to be with someone spontaneous and carefree, but when the two of you start having responsibilities not being able to count on your partner will get really old really quickly.

There are never guarantees in a relationship, sometimes they work, sometimes they don't. If you take a little time to think about the traits that you should have in a partner and then look for those traits, you will have a much better chance of having a fulfilling and loving relationship.

Recognize what relationship needs you have and look for those qualities in whoever you date. Don't lie to yourself, if the person you are dating can't deliver at least a minimum of quality traits, keep looking.


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