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Having Each Other’s Backs

Ecclesiastes 7:12
For the protection of wisdom is like the protection of money, and the advantage of knowledge is that wisdom preserves the life of him who has it.

While many people say they married X, not their family or friends, the truth is that family and friends are part of their past and present lives and it is unreasonable to expect your partner to give them up just because you say so or don’t like them. Their family and friends don’t treat you with the respect you feel you deserve. This can be very painful, and has even been known to cause severe stress in a marriage.

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Cultural or class differences, as well as racial or educational differences, can cause some people to look down on others - making it tough for the relationship to survive. One of the best ways to ensure that it does is to make sure you have your partner’s back and that you know it. You could say something like, "You’re entitled to your opinion, Mom, but I’ve already heard it. I don’t agree with you, and my husband deserves my respect, so I would prefer it if you kept your criticisms to yourself." Trust is the sum total of all the big and little things you share in a marriage. As long as you show how much you value your marriage, no mistrust should creep in.

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